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How Your Emotional Health Affects Your Fertility

Having good emotional health is a balancing act. It is something you have to work at every day because life has an interesting way to always bring new things for you to live and experience.

If you have a belief that says: “I am okay with life and its challenging”, you most likely will handle anything that comes your way with ease. No matter how difficult or hard a situation can seem, you will have the resources within you that will get your through the experience.

While trying to conceive, you will encounter disappointment, difficulty and you may end up not  feeling good about yourself.  

If you have a belief that says: “Live is hard”, you rest assure that you will experience difficulties beyond your abilities to cope with them and no matter how hard you try, it will get harder for you.

Most of the women I work with, do have limiting beliefs about their ability to get pregnant. Some are their own limiting beliefs based on their personal experiences, others come from their social conditioning.

Personal Limiting Beliefs

What you belief determines your reality. This is a basic principle of emotional health. Did you know that your emotions also make you attract a specific reality because of your beliefs.

In fact, for every limiting belief you have about getting pregnant, childbirth and fertility will affect your outcome.

What keeps your limiting beliefs in place are negative trapped emotions from past difficult experiences and trauma. It is how you feel that determines how you experience a certain difficult situation. 

Here is a simple list of possible limiting beliefs regarding getting pregnant:

1. I am not worthy of having a baby
2. I don't trust my body to have a healthy baby
3. Women over 35 have poor egg quality
4. Getting pregnant is hard
5. My ovulation patterns are irregular
6. I don't know when I ovulate
7. I hate my periods
8. I am not as lucky as other women
9. I hope I can keep my job if I get pregnant
10. I am not okay with being a mother
11. I am not supported in my effort to have a baby
12. I don't want my child to have older parents
13. I have to get pregnant before 40
14. The world is not a safe place to have babies
    
15. I can't afford to have a baby
16. If I have a baby my body shape will change
17. I am afraid of giving birth 
18. My relationships will change once I have a baby
19. I will lose my freedom once I have a baby

Social Conditioning & Infertility

There is a huge amount of social conditioning around getting pregnant. Most doctor will tell you that after age 35 you enter perimenopause and your ovaries are declining in number and quality. You are also warned about the increased change of birth defects related to advanced maternal age. 

Other issues that may negatively influence you thinking patterns about having a baby may related to financial concerns, cultural concerns, religion, housing, child care, family and career issues. 

When you make the decision to get pregnant, your mind is thinking about all these issues and they can create self-sabotage in delaying or preventing conception.

Conscious and Unconscious Beliefs

There are two types of limiting beliefs: conscious and unconscious.

Conscious limiting beliefs are those that you know you have. You know you have them because you say them when you talk to yourself or to others. 

Conscious limiting beliefs are those that are hidden in your subconscious mind and are beyond the control of your conscious awareness. 

These are hard to find. The best way I know is to use muscle testing, a form of applied kinesiology. Using energy testing for fertility via distance is what I use in order to help my clients identify their limiting beliefs. 

It is so revealing to them because most of the beliefs they created (personal limiting beliefs) or accepted (social conditioning) may go back in time from when they were younger.

A classic example of a limiting belief that is formed during the time a woman becomes intimate with a man is: "Now is not a good time to have a baby".

It is not uncommon for this limiting belief to stay stuck in the background of your mind for years until you decide to have a baby. Having this limiting belief can delay your conception and cause self-sabotage in the form of infertility or unexplained infertility.

What I find is that a negative trapped emotion is always supporting this limiting belief or keeping it in place. 

Negative Emotions & Limiting Beliefs

Limiting beliefs are just thoughts. How you respond to these thoughts creates your reality. If thinking that your age can affect your ability to conceive makes you feel fearful, lost, insecure, hopeless, discouraged, or sad, you are responding to this limiting thought with a negative emotional charge. 

This negative emotional charge can get trapped in your body and make you feel worse and worse over time. The negative feelings take over your emotional responses and how you feel about getting pregnant and having a baby. 

The longer it takes you to conceive, the more negative trapped emotions you create as a result of your negative expectations.

Free Yourself From Negative Emotions

It is vital that you learn how to turn things around in your mind and release the negative beliefs and the negative emotions you carry inside of you.

Negative trapped emotions and limiting beliefs are a form of energy and as energy can be stored in your energy field affecting the way your energy flows through your body. 

Often in my sessions with clients I find and release trapped emotions of sadness, sorrow, guilt, humiliation, blame located in the body organs, including the ovaries, the uterus and the Fallopian tubes. 

Releasing the negative energy of these trapped emotions can support the physical body as well and creating a lighter feeling in the mind. 

It is possible to assess these energy blocks at the level of your reproductive organs and energy system and release them.

Fertility Blessings!