Trying To Conceive At 34. Did I miss My Chance?
I was pregnant by accident when I was 18 and 24. I chose not to keep those pregnancies. At the time.. I was naive, young and well.. dumb. I regret my decisions.. but they were made out of ignorance.. and fear.
Now, in my 30's. I try to get pregnant, and cannot. Since about 30. My periods went from every 28 days, to about every 24 to 27 days.. varying.
I also recently started getting light bleeding on the 10th to 14th day around ovulation time that I've never had before in my 20's. Also once or twice, my period has started 2 weeks early (but that is rare).
I have been to my doctor, who ran a full blood test, and also a fertility doctor who ran the same hormone tests.. always coming out normal. I was told the whole panel was run, and normal.
Although I'm not educated enough to understand what exactly that means for me. I had a hysterosalpinogram. and my tubes are clear. I do have a very tiny polyp showing in my uterus that the doctor said is so small she won't remove it, because she may not be able to even see it..?? maybe 3mm? I have had ultrasounds on my uterus and ovaries.. that aren't showing any other abnormalities.. and show my ovaries.. and follicles like I'm about to ovulate.
I'm now 34, and I'm wondering are my eggs old now? I got pregnant so easy in my 20's. .. I am worried I threw my chances away and am suffering a horrible punishment now that I want nothing more than to have a baby.Answer:
In order to answer your question, I think it's important to address the mental and emotional aspect separate from the physical one, even if everything ultimately they are connected.Mental: Release Your Mental Anguish
The first step in your journey to motherhood is to forgive yourself for your past choices. Believe it or not, your personal experience will only make you a better mom. But you have to be able to release your sense of guilt in order to allow your creative power to emerge.
To support yourself in this task,
I would recommend emotional freedom technique (EFT).
EFT is an easy technique to learn and use. It's based on the same theories as Chinese acupuncture and it's effective for dissolving negative emotions including anxiety, worry, guilt, anger, and fear.
EFT utilizes the meridian system used in acupuncture without needles. It consists on light tapping on specific points on the face, upper body and hands while focusing on the emotional issue you want release.
The tapping can seem a little crazy at first, but once you get started you will soon understand how quickly it can reduce, and usually eliminate, intense negative emotions.
I strongly recommend to read this eBook
, which will teach you step-by-step how to use EFT to help you emotionally while supporting your fertility.Physical: Support Your Menstrual Cycle
Performing a cleansing is an additional important step you can take when preparing for conception. This is recommended for everyone who is preparing for conception, but especially for unexplained infertility.
If your doctor and fertility expert have done all the possible tests and concluded that everything is normal, you may find that The Fertility Cleanse Kit
will be able to help clear out any imbalances that is preventing your body from achieving conception.
Once you have eliminated toxins that can impair your fertility, your body is able to function at its optimal level.
You can find more information on the importance of cleansing before conception here
.The Benefits Of Doing A Fertility Cleanse:
1. Support liver function in releasing harmful substances from the body.
2. Eliminate excess hormones that disrupt regular cycles.
3. Assist the uterus in cleansing out old blood & clots.
4. Improve egg quality and balance the hormones.
5. Increase circulation to the reproductive system.
After following this cleansing program for 1-2 months you will notice that your cycle will be more regular.
At 34 your egg quality may begin to decline, but it can still be improved naturally
I don`t think you have lost your chance to get pregnant, but I know that if you want a baby you need to work a bit harder than in your 20s to get pregnant.
I hope this points you in the right direction.